You know what? I never asked god to be pretty. I never asked god to have guys falling for me. I never asked god to make me to some guy's fantasy. And yet, god has given me a beautiful face. For all my life, I have many guys falling for me, and I never even care or never even had a boyfriend. I simply don't care about my love life.

Why am I saying all this thing all of a sudden? Because I recently feel violated since Wednesday night. A male friend of mine invited me and another female friend for a cultural performance. And after the performance, we went for dinner. The three of us were sitting cozily at the corner of the restaurant, and chatting away with politics and cultural topics. And I don't recall how did we jump into the topic of sex. This male friend I know have always like me since 2008, and he even proposed me marriage several times. It's like every time we meet up, he will propose to me, and I decline as always. And he will always comment back that I 'jual mahal' (jual mahal is often used for girls who are picky in selecting boyfriend. It's a Malay phrase).

I never like to discuss about my love life. I never like to talk about why I'm not having boyfriend. I'm not like those girls who thinks she must have a boyfriend for whatever reasons.

Anyways, I don't know why this male friend suddenly talking about sex topic. And he was telling my friend who is the youngest among us that female has nine places of weaknesses. Because of this 'knowledge', he can drive any girls crazy about him. Well, I was not impressed so was she. She was answering back that people can resist temptation, so why would she be crazy? But his reply was disturbing. Just read the conversation we had:

Guy: You know girls have nine places of weaknesses... that guys can drive them crazy about them.
She: Huh??? Can?
Guy: Yea can ... like caressing her arm ... (he demonstrated on my arm)
She: Oh?
Renaye: (busy eating her pizza)
Guy: You know I can make any girls like you all go crazy...
She: (thinking pause) No ... I definitely can resist...
Guy: You definitely cannot because I know your weaknesses that can make you go crazy about me ... Another place is the knee...
She: Huh???
Renaye: (feeling disturbed but hidden in her chewing)
Guy: I definitely can make her go crazy, but I won't ... (fishy smiling)
Renaye: ...
Guy: Yea ... I can make her go crazy about me ....
Renaye: Are you not late for your meeting now?
Guy: Yea ... but never mind ...

We continue eating, but he still talked about making girls go crazy about him until ... he left our table for the subway.

Guy: Yea I can make girls go crazy about me ...
She: But why would I be crazy?!
Guy: No ... I would be able to make her go crazy ...
She: No ... I won't go crazy ...
Guy: But I would definitely be able to make her go crazy about me .. but I just won't do it ...

Did you know who the 'her' he was referring to? It was me. The way he said it... the way he emphasised the 'her' ... the way he said 'i would make her go crazy about me' while pointing at me... I feel so violated ....

I'm feeling even worse now than the time I was molested by my senior. The eyes .. the gesture .. the body language while directing that sentence to me... I have never felt such violation.

I'm taking it as verbal sexual harassment. Actions can be taken in working place, but among friends. Can it be done? I have told him from time to time that I'm not comfortable with this kind of topic, and have politely say several times to respect me and my love life decisions, but he would just say "I say whatever I like and whenever I want."

I actually never feel what I'm feeling now when we were in the restaurant ... I only reflected on it since yesterday and felt awful now... My friend who was with us would definitely say to forget it ... but if a serial killer has targeted you, would you be able to forget it? That is the feeling I'm experiencing now - being targeted. He is definitely not going to rape me whatsoever, but I was targeted in the whole conversation. Do you really know how I feel? It's disturbing. It's violating. It's offensive. I have been offensively teased.

That is why I have said many times that money is much better than men. Now you know why. And so what if men are more educated? Do you think some men will behave like what we expect to think? It's a wishful thinking, because this guy is a lawyer.

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I'm not sure how many nightmares god is wanting me to endure, but I'm going to have another nightmare from 15 to 18 April. I will be going for some youth camp, and my friend who has participated in the camp reported the hostel doesn't have air conditioner (no big deal) and the toilets were damn dirty, so were the beds. Her friends got bed bugs, and no one there seemed to care. She encouraged me to bring my own pillow case and bed sheet. I'm bringing the former, but not the latter. And I think I'm going to buy a sleeping bag whence I return from this camp. That is if I survive the camp. I didn't sleep well the whole night fearing the level of dirtiness of the hostel, and the gruesome activities I have to endure, and how much I hate public speaking and performing in public, and that is what I must do when I'm in the camp.

Ugh. Cross finger, my stomach will be good and not giving me any stomachache problems because I don't want to use the toilets in the dome!

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What does it mean when someone says you are one in a million? But I'm replacing you to offer, because that is what I got. An offer that is one in a million being offered to me last week. I went gag, but I turned it down flat.

Last week, I catch up with a friend who I don't know very well; I only know he is a very important person in the society. As we settled into our seats, he suddenly told me about his children's love life, and then suddenly he was telling me how his son is single and how is wife is already nagging him for not getting a partner. And then suddenly he asked me if I will be interested in his son, because he and his wife don't mind the son gets a wife from another race and religion. I was kinda dumbstruck. But I turned down because I mind changing my religion, though I could not believe a girl's dream to marry a tycoon just landed on my plate, and I tossed it away in a blink of my eye. And I said to the tycoon in front of me that I prefer to hunt the money with my own two hands rather than getting married a man who has multiply millions of exotic currency in his account. I don't know if that would be a dumb or a smart alek answer.

But I didn't feel any tinge of regret awakening in me when I said that. But I seriously need to know what I really want to do in live. And I don't like people saying I'm only a 'talkshop'.

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I like Morning Musume group from Japan, and they have a funny rotating system among the members. Almost every year, some of the members will 'graduate' from the group, which means leaving the group in a nicer word. Owing to this system, you can imagine how many girl members have graduated from this group. From my observation, these former members never gained the limelight again they enjoyed after embarking as a soloist in the entertainment industry in the land of the rising sun. And to me, no matter what they do, where they go, they will always be known as the former member of morning musume. It doesn't matter if they change their name to a much more sexy stage name, they would not be able to shake off their former image. It must be frustrating for them.

And maybe due to frustration and to survive the harsh entertainment industry, these former members formed a new group called Dreaming Morning Musume. And they sing the songs, which they have sang during their years as Morning Musume members.

I thought that was suffocating though I cannot deny these members are good in dancing and singing, but I was just thinking if only thye could sing new fresh songs instead of resinging songs. I prefer originality. And it seems like they'd never moved on in life. Past is past. Just move on and do something more original... That would be an ultimate challenge.

Don't know. I'm not their manager. But this is what I thought. Let other morning musume members found this entry, they may either:

a) drop me some messages or
b) increase the number of blog readers and give me more ads.

HA! That's about it.

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