I've become great friends with all
(but one)
of the girls who work here. =)

Marriage and boyfriends have come up in
casual conversation multiple times
and I believe it is a topic that will occupy their minds
for a while (albeit short) yet.

Why?

They are my age, that is,
early twenties (only!)
and their families are pressuring them to get married.
Two of them already have wedding dates
and husband-to-be
arranged for them. =(
I feel torn and sad for them.
"Do you love him?"
The answers were these:
"No, I haven't even reached like yet.
Just acceptance for now."
"I just met him again the other day after a while and...
unfortunately, what little hopeful spark we had is gone.
I don't know what to do."
I cannot really say anything
for I am not from this country
and though I understand both viewpoints (traditional and modern)
it is not me going through this
so I know whatever I say is biased in some way.

I've overheard some of the girls talking
and it seems that 23-24 is an age
most of the young people get married.
"He's 24 already and still not married!"
exclaimed one of them.
Yet they do not seem so happy themselves to be getting married
but it is the norm.

=\

Where are you???????????????????????
I'm guessing Northern China? Some of my friends' parents have arranged marriages, but I've never met anyone my age that had one. Some of my friends from other cultures said that they wouldn't mind one, but when the time came they just fell in love and married whoever they wanted. How nice to be free.
» Zanzibar on 2012-03-07 04:09:19

They talk about boyfriend when they're having arranged marriages? :S
» randomjunk on 2012-03-07 11:15:56

I think I will kill myself if my parents dare to arrange my marriage for me. My parents do not make the right choices for me.

I think how people look at marriage and how old you get married depends on the culture. Where you are, it is unacceptable that you are not married so if you cannot find one on your own, I'm sure your parents would arrange it for you. Being where you are, girls are more... docile (for the lack of a better word) towards how things are for them so you would hardly get one that will run away from home and cut all ties with their family. It may end up being a happy marriage, who knows.

Re: I would love to go over and visit you. My only problem is that I do not have a passport or I will be taking the next flight out. I am looking forward to my weekly time with my friends tho the poor things have to come and fetch me out because my brother has the primary possession of our car.
» Nuttz on 2012-03-08 05:09:37

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