I was watching "Pump up the Volume" with a really young Christian Slater, and there's a scene in the movie about suicide, a guy asks Slater's character about killing himself.

Don't you have the feeling that asking someone about killing oneself is almost as obscene as asking, pfff I dunno, how do you wash down there when you take a shower?

I mean, suicide is so intimate, is a choice people have to make all alone, is like touching yourself, is a choice you always have, and you don't really talk about it unless you're drunk or with friends.

I think people talk about suicide when they don't really want to do it, they talk about it when they're desperate for having another opportunity, to hear that you appreciate them or love them, that they matter...

Some friends in the past have come to me to talk about killing themselves, I always answer the same: "It's your choice, I can say a million things, I can assure you that things are going to get better, but in the end of the day is your life, not mine, and you know how it is, and I don't, I have a pretty good Idea, but don't really know. So is your choice. I'd rather you wont go through with it, because I'll miss you a lot, I love you, and I hate that I can't do anything to make you feel better... Call me egoistic but I want you here with me..."
that's more or less what I tell them.... neither have killed themselves.

Suicide is very intimate, very lonely decision.
Lemme Know what you think.

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I do kind of think that people who talk to others about suicide don't actually want to do it.

I think suicide is the most selfish thing you can do. People do it because they don't want to face their real problems. Suicide is cowardly. People are afraid to make right whatever is really wrong and so they "escape" into death. They convince themselves that nobody cares about them, the world is cruel, blahblahblah, but really they just need to get their act together and take steps towards getting better (like getting therapy, taking anti-depressants, confronting their parents about an issue, maybe even running away, etc., and they don't want to or aren't strong enough.) No matter what anyone is going through, it is ALWAYS temporary. So they should SUCK IT UP and stop feeling sorry for themselves and eventually the feeling of utter despair will pass.

Not that I would say all of that to a person who was suicidal, of course. The people whom I've known I've just tried to reach out to them and get them to tell me what's really wrong. But I would probably bring it up. Because I don't think suicide is a personal decision. It affects everyone in your life. By committing suicide, you make everyone's life crappy, and you don't have to deal with the consequences. That's a real asshole move. People OWE it to everyone around them to do something proactive to get out of their suicidal states.

well... you asked for my opinion.
» Zanzibar on 2007-08-29 07:02:19

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