Let Me Guide You

I cannot read minds.

No one I know can.

Due to this obvious fault in creation, I try to be as transparent as possible. If I have unmet needs, if I have wishes, if I have problems, I will let you know.

I understand the occasional value of holding my tongue, but it is my naive opinion that most people would rather know, and make a personal decision from there.

My roommate, on the other hand, does not seem to value transparency. Even when I tell her, point-blank, that I want her to speak up if she is uncomfortable having my boyfriend around our apartment, she won't. She says she's totally cool with him, then the moment he knocks on the door, she retreats to her room. It makes T² very self-conscious.

So what do we do? Hang out at his place, or go out to a Starbucks. Awkward problem solved, right? But this doesn't please her either. She gives me this sad puppy look whenever I grab my coat. She even told one of our other friends that she feels like she's being ditched when I go out with him. Great. At least she's honest with someone. Now if only she'd help me out a little.

These are the solutions I came up with:

1. Invite Roommate on the occasional Starbucks date with the two of us so that she can get to know him better.

2. Reserve a regular roommate bonding night that we will always spend together without T ².

3. FIND HER A MAN.

Any other suggestions? Similar situations?

Eh.... looks like you've got everything covered in your list there. At least, everything that doesn't involve involuntary usage of sleeping pills...
» randomjunk on 2007-11-12 08:11:12

I think that all three options are totally doable and should be set into motion immediately.

» alexsedotcx on 2007-11-16 02:13:41

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