Sunday. 2.13.05 10:23 am
This morning at breakfast, after 4 1/2 hours of sleep.... we touched on a topic very close to my heart... ADOPTION: over the course of the hour meal I was about to give my own thoughts on adoptions versus having ur own child and educate Becca and Amanda on the 'facts' of it all. In summary
1) there are so many kids out there who were born whose parents aren't able to take care of them and wish thema better life that there is no reason to try and produce more kids into the world.
2) a child adopted is just as much as a child created from ur own genes, they just look different, but really folks, they act just as much as ur own child might, hold the same ideals etc, this is where ur attitutdes and parenting comes into play, it is not ur chromosomes.
3) There is variation, disorders, illnesses, disabilities that any child could have, whether or not u adopt them, accept them as YOUR child and treat them as u would ur own child.
4) It is safer in a sense to adopt because the child will be monitored before adoption, screened for illnesses (and they will inform u of these findings, I would hope that even if ur child is sick, with Hep B for instance, u woudl take it anyway bc when u produce ur own child u have no choice either), disabilities, and unless u request or allow, u will get a "normal" child.
5) Women! There is no child birth process, morning sickness, moodiness (guys u should be happy about that one), baby fat to work off, swollen ankles, taking time out of ur job.
6) Sure there will be things to deal with that u wouldn't have to with a child u birthed, for example: I remember going thru a period when i wanted to see my birth mother, I wanted that connection, but it has passed. My brother and I also went thru a period when we were mad at our parents for not letting us eat 10 cookies or something, that we would rather be with our "real" parents, and sure it hurts to hear that but it is a phase, just like the terrible twos or rebelious teenage years. Ur child might feel like they weren't wanted and that is why they were adopted, but in a good enviornment and understanding that their mother did what she felt was best, once ug et old enough to comprehend that, u forgive, and reach thankfulness.
7) It's hard enough to have kids, the infertility rate among women (and men) is greatly increasing due to toxins, hormones in our meats, STI's like having chlamidea ONCE can make u infertile (it's all about smart choices thinking long term here) and the trying to get pregnant stuff is horrible for the marriage, well at least my mom said it almost ruined theirs... because "sex is the glue to ur marriage in many senses and when u are forced to do it on a schedual.... it ruins the glue"
8) Think about it, I would never wish for something other than the life i have now, the parents I have now, or the opportunity to be adopted and be here right now. I am thankful my birth mother and my parents chose adoption.
hey baybeh! mm...just wanted to drop u a line...
its interesting cuz i'm pretty sure u and i have conversed about 90% of this blog. =) nice gallery btw. love you to pieces!
» PureRidiculous on 2005-02-13 10:51:28
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