Monday. 9.27.04 7:06 pm
One day, a wise professor asked his students, “When people are angry, why do they yell at each other as they talk to each other?”
All the students thought of the question for quite a while; one of them said, “Because we lose our ‘calmness’” “But why is it that the person is right next to you, and you still have to yell at them? Why can’t you talk softly?” asked the professor. Then almost all the students answered his question, but those were not the answers the professor wanted.
Finally, the professor explained, “When people are mad at each other, their hearts are distanced; to cover that up for the other person to hear us, we yell at them; but yelling makes us even angrier, so we yell louder…”
[This is the best part!-me] He goes on and says “What happens when two people are in love? It would be opposite—they won’t yell, instead, they talk very softly to each other. Why? Because their hearts are close to each other, almost not having any distance; so people who are in love with each other often talk like it’s a secret, but then, because of that, they fall even more deeply in love with each other; finally, they don’t even need words, but looking into each others eyes, and that is when their hearts have no distance between…
The professor concluded, “When we argue with someone, don’t allow the distance between the hearts to increase, and never say things that pulls the hearts even farther apart; wait for a few days, and THEN talk, when the hearts are closer.”
Compliments of Tom S's site who stole it from Tom Zhang's site.
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