I hold on very tightly to things because I have this fear that whatever I do or say to or for someone will be forgotten and meaningless. I put myself out there, constantly standing out (calling, making people laugh, texting 24/7) because I want to remind people that I'm there.

And yes, I'm clingy, and yes, I am selfish, insecure and will always chase and hunt you down...but that is a part of me that I don't have enough strength to control.

But it makes me wish someone did the same for me. Because then I would feel as if they want to remain in my life, just as desperately as I try to remain in theirs.

I kinda feel you on wanting someone like that in your life. I don't really have any friends that seem to make a strong effort to keep in contact with me or hang out.
» randomjunk on 2013-08-17 07:22:42

Sometimes I think that clingy people just don't back off long enough for the other person to start chasing them. Someone wants to call you, but you've already called them. They want to text you, but you've already texted them. The best they can ever do is to *return* your call, which doesn't feel like as much of an achievement. They would start to miss you, but they can't because you're always there. So sometimes I think you have to chill out just long enough to leave a space for someone else to be able to chase you a little bit. Your words are valuable, but the more of them there are the less valuable they become. Your presence is valuable, but if you are *always* there, people start to take you for granted. Just my two cents.
» Zanzibar on 2013-08-17 07:25:18

I do something similar; my old friends don't like it. Not sure if I've gotten over that personality quirk or just made new friends.
» middaymoon on 2013-08-19 08:05:55

I'm the sam eway. I've moved across the country for a woman before.

I'm thinking of moving to London to chase another.

WISH ME LUCK
» undisputed on 2013-08-22 05:48:07

Don't make people chase you.
Chances are, the people you know like the fact that you hunt them down. You're a fun initiator. Keep doing what you feel is natural.
» le_battement on 2013-08-28 02:45:37

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