it's difficult to change things that are out of your control. i wish i could, but everyone's stuck in their comfort zones. can i break that pattern and keep it that way? how can i get what i want? what do i want anyway? i just can't sit here and wait for the answers to magically appear to me anymore.

What do you want?
You want to give me copious amounts of money. You do that by pawning everything you own, then sending me a money order. Happiness is only a few expensive possessions away!!
» DeeVeuS on 2006-01-12 12:43:21

Just kidding
Seriously, the only way to break out of a pattern is to change the way you think. Instead of trying to change things out of your control, try making the most out of your situation... accept that you can't change everything (instead of thinking about the way things SHOULD be), but you can choose not to let it get to you so much. Looking for possibilities is a better mindset than seeing problems. Little things like this make a HUGE difference. Instead of dwelling how bad you feel, think of ways how you can make yourself happy. Ask yourself, "How can I make myself feel better?" Or "What can I do to make myself happy?" And try not to be pessimistic with your answers. There's a lot more to this though, if you ever feel like this isn't working (but I'm sure it will), send me a message and I'll try and help you some more. I've been there before and I know how to get out of that. All I did was change the way I thought, the way I see the world. I'll leave you with some profound comments that I found helped me a lot.

This older man showed me something one day. He put a half crumpled can in the middle of the table. He said, "Now you see a crumpled up can, but from my point of view, I see a perfectly round can. We're looking at the same exact thing, but it's our perspective that makes the difference." What he was trying to get across was, life is only as hard as we put it on ourselves. We can choose how we feel at any time. I didn't know this before then. I thought I was just an eternal victim of circumstance. Realize that we create our own reality, when you begin to understand this, your whole world changes. Believe me.
» DeeVeuS on 2006-01-12 12:55:15

hi
i tihnk you can break it now and then but to keep it that way is hard for anyone to do. i suppose the first step to getting what you want is to figure out what it is that you want. dont be so hard on yourself. take it one step at a time. =)
» tiltingtomatoe on 2006-01-12 04:06:40

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