My assistant Jen, who was here all Thanksgiving with me neither of us have lives, and I had two interesting conversations. The first one was about the kind of person we liked to go out with. Jen and I, as in most things although we respect each other, were at opposite ends of the spectrum. I, for myself, prefer a more substantial person if we are going to talk about the horizontal mambo. I

'm sorry, I'm just not into the whole waif look for either gender. I think that just looks unhealthy and anorexic, and overall to me unappealing. All other things being equal, I prefer someone who looks like they eat on a regular basis. Of course, if they're nasty or unpleasant or socially unaware I don't want to go out with them no matter what they look like. Jen, for herself, said she likes skinnier people and I concluded that that was fine because then everybody gets some love. She laughed at that.

My friend Craig calls admitting you have certain things you like physically in mates, "honoring your inner monkey". He says while you shouldn't completely base who you date on what they look like, unless you want to be shallow, it's okay to give into our inner simian a little bit.

I guess he's right even though I always tell everyone that looks don't matter. I guess if you're more physically attracted to the person, you'll be a better significant other because you won't always be looking at other people. I had this problem and a lot of other ones too (our problems clearly weren't based on attracted status alone) when I dated a very skinny, angular, able bodied chick that I adored but did nothing for me in the libido department. She would always catch me looking at people and didn't like it very much. Not that I can blame her.

The next conversation we had was when we were watching Extreme Makeover Home Edition, and they had this family with 7 kids, a 9 year old boy and sextuplets. Mom was a nurse and dad was a third grade teacher. Not a lot of money there. Jen and I were debating whether it's worse to have 6 two year olds or 6 teenagers. She said two because you get no time to yourself when they're two. I said that may be but teenagers come with a whole set of problems. Between significant others, prom expenses, athletic fees, recreational expenses, college tuition, driver's licenses, and on and on and on. I'd rather have 6 two year olds any day of the week than 6 teenagers for one day.

Well, that was my Thanksgiving and I'm glad I got to share it with someone who made me think. If I didn't have assistants I don't think I would be as good of a writer as I am because I would say at least 25% of the stuff I write comes from the stuff they say. Of course, if I didn't have assistants I wouldn't be alive, so there's that.

Categories: love [t], weight [t], parenting [t]

I think it's impossible not to pay more attention to a person's physical attributes before you can get to know them if it's offline. I mean, if you didn't find them physically attractive, why would you approach them in the first place?

Also, teenagers are more independant. And even if they are more expensive, they can also get jobs. I guess I'm kind of biased since I am currently a teenager, but I mean, parents are technically required to pay for everything. The teen can learn to save. :P
» randomjunk on 2008-11-28 08:52:20

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