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~ D.H. Lawrence

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Thursday, August 19, 2010
Him: i could see myself leaving someone for someone else
Him: but not cheating
Me: hm, so if you found someone better, you'd leave me?
Him: they'd have to be pretty fucking amazing to leave you. unrealistically so.
Him: but in theory.
Me: hm
Me: you like me that much?
Me: although it's not reassuring that if you met someone you thought was better you would leave me
Him: realistically, if you found a perfect guy, wouldn't you do the same? im not perfect for you
Him: i dont think there is a 'perfect girl' out there for me so i would really doubt i'd ever leave you
Him: but again, in theory.
Him: but yes, i do like you that much.

Realistically, if I found a perfect guy, I probably would NOT leave my current boyfriend for him. Because realistically, if I thought someone was perfect, I would not pursue him. Not only that, but isn't it kind of a selfish thing to do? Leave for someone better, I mean? Or is the idea that having met that perfect person, one would not be able to be satisfied in one's current relationship and therefore be unable to return affection any longer, in which case it makes more sense to break it off anyway?

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I can't feel anything...
6 Comments.


Follow your heart and don't make quick disicions you'll regret
» Midnight on 2010-08-19 07:14:09

You're right
It would be a selfish thing to do. Relationships are supposed to be mutual caring for each other, not a "you scratch my back I scratch yours" kind of thing. Going by that, the only time to leave someone would be if THEY found a better person and you wanted them to be happy.

Speaking of "better" people, I don't think they even exist. Certainly there are pairs that get along better than others, but people are people and you can choose to love any one you wish.
» middaymoon on 2010-08-19 08:28:15

Re: I certainly like the idea of making all the food myself in theory But yeah.....brides stress enough over their wedding....why add to that?

and there's no such thing as "the perfect Guy/girl." Everyone has their own issues. the "perfect" person is someone who loves you despite of all your issues. if they/or you see someone that appears "better" than you aren't meant to be with the person you are currently with. plain and simple.

» SporadicFunk on 2010-08-19 09:59:12

If you had to chose between the boy of your dreams and your boyriend, chose your boyfriend. Because he's better than the boy of your dreams...he's real.

Oooooh 500 Days of Summer reference! Super cheesy for this particular scenario but you know me :)

I think it's funny that you guys can talk about this with such straightforwardness. Most couples would get scared, and weirded out I think. I do think, though, that a relationship isn't something that should be used in the same sentence as "realistic," or "logical." It's one of those things that you just have to feel, I think.
» The-Muffin-Man on 2010-08-19 10:56:48

I used to have this boyfriend who would say that I made him "content". Not "happy", not "ecstatic"... just "content". He said that I should think that was good because realistically speaking who was ever really "happy" or "ecstatic"... content was all you could realistically expect. I didn't find his "candidness" to be very inspiring or appealing.

I think it's dangerous to say that you would leave your current boyfriend or girlfriend for someone "better", because it kind of suggests that you'll always be looking. Instead of being there in the moment with the one you're with, you'd be always kind of assessing other people to see how they compare. And that doesn't feel very safe for the other person in the relationship. I think if you were invested in the relationship fully, when you met the "better" person, you wouldn't even ever realize it because you wouldn't see them in that way.

» Zanzibar on 2010-08-19 03:00:58

People always talk about cheating like it's purely physical, while emotional cheating is...also pretty bad. That's where I would understand breaking up--if it feels like you're cheating with the other person.

With that said, that was still...really thoughtless. There's a certain amount of safety that should be in a relationship. Saying that makes it sound like it WILL happen, and that's just...gross. Ugh. People just don't plan like that if their intentions are pure.
» Unicornasaurus on 2010-08-19 07:42:11

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