Gym time today: 1.5 hours.
Total this week: 14 hours.

So I hit 14 hours in six days because I'm taking tomorrow off for writing group. Can't make my normal classes in the morning if I want to get to the group on time. Oh well. There was a sub for Bootcamp tonight, so I guess it was actually a class called H.I.I.T., which I think stands for High Intensity Interval Training. Walked a mile and ran a mile (level 1 incline, 8 minute mile pace) afterwards. I've been feeling nervous about running on the treadmill, so I haven't been going as fast as I probably could... I also used the safety clip today, but kept thinking about what would happen if it didn't work.

I was thinking a little about friendship today. It seems like my friendships (and maybe friendships in general) are based on either frequency or quality of contact, or some mixture of the two. If I talk to someone a lot I might consider them a friend. If I don't talk to someone a lot, but I feel like they are there for me if I need them and we can have meaningful interactions, I consider them a friend. Ideally I would have frequency and quality, but that seems like it's not really available to me right now.

Anyway, there are some people who might consider themselves friends with me but who fall into neither of these categories, and I wonder if there is any benefit to flat out telling them we're not friends. Does it serve any practical purpose?

I like to know who my friends are and have things defined, not left to ambiguity. Sometimes friendships just fade on their own, but I guess I prefer the feeling of closure that comes with formally ending a friendship. Not that it's something I enjoy, I mean. But just... I feel like I'm at this place in my life where I notice when people add nothing of value to my life, and it feels like a waste of my time to deal with them even on a minimal level.

Having a friendship where you casually interact with someone once a month or less is really unappealing to me. Why am I even bothering to keep them in my life if that's the extent of our relationship? Do you even care about someone if that's the entirety of your interactions with them? Maybe it works for other people, but I don't like it.

I think there will always be people who think that they are close to you but you don't think that they are close to you at all. It's a matter of perception and the individual's own categorisation of things.

I usually just let it be if someone thinks that they are my friend but I don't perceive them to be the same because it doesn't really matter.

Sometimes the problem with endings and closures is that they don't always come hand-in-hand. If it does for you then good but if it doesn't, gotta learn to let go anyway
» Nuttz on 2016-02-13 05:25:14

I run in to the same problem when I try to categorize people I'm talking about. Do I say friend, when I'm not really sure if they actually are? Or do I say casual acquaintance? Or if I say my coworker, but I'm actually referring to a friend, or vice versa, when is it okay to interchange the two?

Either way, I hope your knee feels better soon. Good for you for still keeping up with it despite having an injury.
» LostSoul13 on 2016-02-14 02:52:32

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