Last night me and the girls - Gail, Jess, Mel and Danae had a boy's night out. A 'boy's night' entailed going to a pub and eating steak. Then back to Gail's house for drinks and poker game. Also to top off the boy's night we watched some soft porn. hehehe. It was really a different for the girls, Gail had organised everything and it was her idea. It was not like the usual restaurant dinner...

We didnt know how to play poker properly, cuz everyone had their own versions of texas hold'em...so a lot of the time we were guessing the game. Gail's older bro had to butt in one time to make sure we playing right. We didn't play with money only chips...so we were pretending to make big bets like $50,000 hahaha. It's all pretend, but it didn't stop us from raising the stakes. And as for the soft porn, there was a lot of giggling and criticism of the porn stars techniques and physiques... lol! Got boring after a while, cuz it was all the same shit.

Anyways the subject title of the blog did come up in our evening conversation, it was around 11 and ended at 1am...whether a wedding and marriage was necessary? I was quite surprised at the opinions everyone had...cuz I thought we were all on the same page about wedding stuff. You know...being friends...having similar values and ideals. It was pretty much Danae, Mel and Jess on the cons of marriage...and me and Gail on the pros of marriage. It was quite a heated discussion.

They say wat is the point of getting married when all u get is the paper signed and a promise to be with each other forever. They say it shouldn't matter what the paper proves it is how you make the committment to each other. Which is true...I do not doubt. But then they say...they can't put up with a partner who was to cheat and to be a druggie or just plain difficult, because it would then allow yourself to be a doormat. Then again...it was a contridiction when they said if they knew their spouse was a druggie before marriage...it would only take an open mind or depending on how tolerant you were to handle them.

I believe quite strongly that marriage is not just a bond that is easily broken. It is not about tolerating the spouse...but it is about working through hardship. Yes if my partner was to cheat, I would not beg to stay with them...but I would definitely talk it through and find a way to reconcile. Some ways, tolerating is some what 'settling' for someone who does not have the same values as u. Marriage is not just a paper, but a spirtual connection you have made with the other person, it is a committment but not only that...it is a proclaimation of love and entire self to that person. Also legally a marriage has a husband and a wife. It is nice to to be called that and for kids to know that too.

Everyone has their perspective on what the perfect love committment should be. I think I see a lot of this in my parents which is why I too would like my marriage to go through the similar happy, sad, hardships and makes us stronger...I think depending on experience, a person has their own picture of what love is and how important marriage is to them.

A bunch of girls having a boys night out? I love the idea :-) That being said, it would have very little novelty for me, as I am a guy. That got me to thinking - What if I was to host a Girls night out, for the boys? I doubt it would be viewed in the same light-hearted manner as your boy-evening.

..none the less, I will give thought to this... though what would, and my male friends, get up to?? :-) a dinner, a romantic comedy, a pyjama party, reading out make-up tips from 'girlfriend' magazine etc...

Anyway, your journal entry made for entertaining reading. I salute you.

Cheers
» Ramdom Reader (203.0.101.131) on 2007-02-10 01:22:18

thanks for the comment! It is nice to hear thoughts of others readers. Good luck on hosting a girl's night, if u ever have the chance. It would be fun I reckon!
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