My friend Mel broke up with her bf Jon recently. I met up with her yesterday to talk to her. Funny how all my other friends had called her once she sms us, but I didnt call her to talk about it. I did msg her back though, hoping she is ok. Im not insensitive or unsympathetic to her situation, but I know I will have to have something to say. I have given so much rship advice this year it somehow makes me so frustrated! I dont wanna sound selfish, but when I give advice to others they often dont take it and repeat their mistakes. I think that people who have been jilted do not need my advice but for me to listen to them. I should just shut up. Cuz they have made the mistake, and they know it and they should learn from experience to never repeat that mistake again. Some are so blinded by affection and love that they dont see how much they are truely worth and can move on without the person who broke their heart.

I know that not everyone is the same, with diff dislikes and likes. But I cant help thinking why cant you like 'this' sort of person. They would treat you so much better! It's like girls who tend to fall for "bad" guys and "loser" types. I just wanna give them punch in the head for being so stupid! Is that what they really want? A guy to treat them like shit under their shoe! *sigh*. It sometimes sucks to be in a happy rship, cuz I sometimes feel like I have to lower myself to a certain standard to make those around me feel ok.

Even with Jason, my gay friend...I just get so tired when he complains to me about his love life. Cuz I know the next minute he will only do the same thing again! Often with my love life I keep it personal and do not discuss it with friends, well not the full details anyway. I am happy to keep my probs between me and my man. Cuz only we can sort it out...no one else can.

This kinda reminds me of a rant I have been wanting to do since the beginning of this month. I have noticed that Msian girls back home rely very much on their romantic rships to become socially acceptable. I cant believe that girls would 'make believe' boyfriends that they dont physically have, to talk about in their cafe conversations. It seems to be with the in-crowd a girl must have a bf to talk about. Kinda pathetic, for those girls to think that a man makes them who they are. It also sickens me because they do not take their rships seriously, for them boyfriends are like changing underwear...its pretty much all about cars, money, status and housing. But let me be clear and say that this isnt all Msian girls but only a small group, that gives girls a bad name. And therefore erases all hopes for good guys, cuz they think most girls are out there only to use them.

heyyy hun!
hi! how have you been? i always enjoy reading your latest entries because they always have some kind of meaning to it. and i know how that feels to have a friend/etc. go into a relationship and the whole advice thing.. T_T; when i deal with that kind of stuff i always get a, " yes i know..but i love him/her so much...blalablabla~" etc..and all i can do now is just be there for them..n dont really say anything cuz i dont know really know how they'll interpret it... oh well that's society. hahha,btw hows the weather in austrailia? :D byee
» kimchee on 2006-06-27 06:09:43

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