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its all becoming too alike. what do i do? how do i deal with it? so what if im scared? who gives a damn? he doesnt even realise that it hurts at all... not till i told him anyway. its all happening all over again... why do i feel the same way. the same amount of tears, the same level of stress. why? what did i ever do to deserve this. what am i suppose to do now? i dont want to go through it all again, it was too much for me to handle. i was defenceless, i dont want to be just like a dog. listening to an owners demands, locked in a kennel, being there whenever i need to be and put away when im not needed. this wasnt what i was after.

what wouldve happened if i hadnt started in the first place. where would i be now? would i have taken my friend's job offer and be an idol where ppl just look up at me upon? what would life be like? would i be happier? or worse than now? who would be there to support me?

ive thought about all this. nothing can be perfect. whats chosen has been chosen. whether i was to accept that job or be where i am now, i'd still be under different types of pressure. at least now i have someone there for me ... sometimes.... right?

i made my priorities, i dont now if im doing the right thing, i dont now if i'll feel better this way or if things will get better, but i'll still keep to my words. what will be the result of this? is it just plain stupidity? i dont want to cause anymore hassles and disagreements... do i even have another option?

when one feels a great sense of insecurity, i suppose its an instinct to try find any sort of security just by grasping on to whatever right? im still looking for something to hold on to. i dont know what else i can do. ive done all i can i think. ive made my choices and i've made my sacrifices. im pretty much sure of what i want now i suppose. maybe not completely, but i know what im going to have to do in the future. someone teach me and tell me what else i can do... just simply put up with it till my tolerance reaches its limit and i snap? i dont think i can do that anymore. its so hard to surpress feelings. i dont know how to hide it anymore. its so hard. i feel so dishonest. even now when i dont answer his questions, i feel so dishonest. why do i feel so guilty? hmm, i guess its the fact i expect him to tell me everything too.

why do i feel like im putting pressure on him just because im under so much pressure myself? maybe i am putting him under a lot of pressure too, but he just doesnt tell me? im not blind and emotionless, i know hes tried to do a lot for me. even yesterday. but i just totally ignored his effort at the time because i was so distressed over the weather. im sorry, i know you tried and everything, but it was too hot and i was already feeling shit. it had already accumulated in me for ages. too long. i couldnt stand it anymore.

its almost been 6 months now. i must say, over the time i feel hes more important to me, and over the time, we begin to expect more of eachother. over the time i guess we restricted eachother more, but i havent really tried to wriggle myself free because i didnt feel the need to really. i just hoped that it would all be the same way. i dont want to hold him back from what he wants to do, yet i dont want to be felt like im just a stupid lapdog who just does what im told to do and virtually on a leash being dragged and tied around whereever he wants me to be. he probably didnt even feel anything at all. he didnt even notice what hes done, maybe because boys just never think for others' feelings first or maybe they're just less caring. i dont know what to think anymore. he doesnt know at all, what hes done or how i feel unless i just throw it at his face. but that makes me feel bad. it makes me feel like im always whinging, thats how i feel when i tell him everything. and he has feelings, hes not blank, if i say something, it has an effect on him. there are times i wonder, am i just always whinging or is it because hes constantly making me feel bad? what does he think? i feel like im just an annoying whinging bitch whose just always complaining and whining by his ear. i dont know what he feels, probably the same but not saying it because its inappropriate. but has he ever thought why i do this? is it harder for guys to put himself in others' shoes?

i cant help myself feeling that im absolutely nothing after last night. maybe he doesnt remember what hes said to me last week anymore. maybe i misheard him. i dont know. why is what guys say and what they do always contradicting eachother. he says im the most important, more than anything else, yet he went ahead and made me feel like im some dumbshit who doesnt realise what hes up to. i know he hates me bringing it up. i just hope he never gets to this paragraph. dont need him feeling pissed again. what am i suppose to do though? i have no where to let it out on.

whether its family, friends or boyfriend, how come i always feel im giving out way more than i ever get back. i always try to think for them, and satisfy what they want, i dont mind that i rarely get it back, but when i never get it back at all, i just feel exactly the same way he felt yesterday afternoon. the effort just all went to waste.

i dont know ever how to tell him i feel hurt. ive only ever told him im pissed, well ive shown it even, but i dont know how to tell him im hurt. i hate it, it takes a long long time to recover. hes only really ever done it a few times, its taken weeks - months for me to feel better slightly. how long will it take this time?

does unconditional love exist anymore?

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