Before I say anything, I'd like to point out that I'm not driving at any specific point or answer, I'm really just trying to get some wondering down. It's distracting from these wonderful literature logs my teacher assigned to me. So.

First, I'd like to kind of define love. Love, as I see it, is putting somebody else before yourself. Investing time and energy to do somebody a favor that will possibly not be returned. When ever you go out of your way to be nice to someone, you're loving somebody. The smaller the favor, the smaller the love, but it's still love, technically.

There are forms of love, like in a parent-child relationship, or between friends, that can make us "be more loving" to a person, even to the point of discipline. (Yes, I deem discipline a loving action, as long as it is just and useful.) Let's call that Brotherly Love, because, except for parents/children, it makes us as brothers and sisters. You watch out for them. You enjoy their presence. When you exclaim, "I love you guys!" you really mean you would do anything for them.

And that's what friendship is, at its heart. Brotherly (sisterly) love on a small to large scale.

Now, being "in love" with someone is a whole other creature. I'll call it Romantic Love. (Original, I know!) I kind of want to say that it's an outgrowth of Brotherly Love (INCEST!), but stronger. But that's not really true. Marriage, the real pinnacle of Romance (I heartily maintain that, sorry) is a bonding of two people. Mind, soul, body. It's not just MORE than friendship, it's also DIFFERENT. I wonder how many failed marriages would have been great friendships.

-sigh-

And what's with romantic relationships these days? Why is there this...system to work through? Especially in high school. Are we trying to imitate marriage or something? That's a scary idea, looking at all the failed relationships in high school. Why does the word "dating" no longer mean "going on dates with"? A date is two people going out alone and enjoying each other, whether it be out to eat, a movie, or just a walk in the park. That's all. Whatever feelings of infatuation or attraction are there, great. Act on them. Love each other. But there's no need for all these rules. Just be happy with each other. When I "ask a girl out", I ask her if she wants to go somewhere with me, not ask her to sign a freaking contract.

Now, don't get me wrong. Cheating, juggling, whatever, is always bad, "social contract" or not. If someone is sharing their self with you, then you need to respect it. Not based on whether you're "dating" someone, but based on basic morals. Unless, of course, you're "dating" for sex, in which case you're already in a barrel of eight kinds of crap.

Now, when two people are "dating" pretty seriously, and want it to be known, then the whole boyfriend/girlfriend factor comes into play. But it should be a product of spending time with each other. Letting the romance grow. Not something that comes BEFORE.

OK, rant over. Bed time.

Hey, so as for your last entry, what was it that Kierra knew for weeks?
One time I got a cramp like that when I was surfing, which was bad because I was upside down at the bottom of the sea at the time, well overdue for a breath of air. It was then that I learned that you can still use such a leg for kicking if you really need to... it's just extremely, extremely painful.
» Zanzibar on 2008-10-09 08:07:11

You make a lot of sense.
I'm not being sarcastic.

Do you think that in a relationship there should be equal effort?
» Steigenator on 2008-10-09 10:45:58

i dont think system or rules are needed in a relationship. it suppose to be a bond or union where both can freely express their feelings and be themselves without any restrictions
» AlexisNg on 2008-10-09 11:15:19

Tell Steigen yes.
For the love of everything good. x.x

:3 You've been recommended a lot.

» Unicornasaurus on 2008-10-09 05:18:04

wow u know ur rant actually helped me lol thanks..



I AM NOT ALWAYS FLIRTATIOUS!!



ummmm and i would like to add something to where u said at the top "Love, as I see it, is putting somebody else before yourself. ......."

i also think that loving someone in any kind of relationship is accepting their bad habits and weaknesses and loving them for who they are. whiiiiich is another reason why i think that divorce is so high... ppl dont wanna take the time or the commitment it takes to make a relationship work through all of the faults in each other.
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» elessar257 on 2008-10-10 04:14:34

Huzzah!
Every great romantic relationship starts as a friendship.
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