WELL, I decided that since Brian just goes out when he wants to go out and I have no say in it and whatnot, I ASKED him if he could watch Gregory so I could go out with Melissa last night.

He goes "Oh, I was going to suggest that maybe you should get out..." and I'm thinking to myself, yeah, right...lol

SO, Melissa and I went out for drinks last night and it felt good to get away, but at the same time, I wish I could have taken Gregory. I didn't take him because I don't feel that he should be going to sit at the bar (even though it was in a restaurant) and watch me drinking. I don't want to subject him to that...even though he's little, he could still pick up on stuff like that.

When I left, I asked Brian to clean up the kitchen (since I had made dinner) and he was like "Sure, I'll do that."

I get home - Gregory is sleeping...Brian is sitting on his computer...the kitchen IS NOT clean. I'm like "Uh...I thought you were going to clean the kitchen" and he goes "Oh yeah, I completely forgot about it." SO, I get home and start cleaning the kitchen. Please note, I completely HATE dirty dishes that have sat out for hours because the food gets stuck to all the dishes and it's a bitch to clean up. When I cook dinner, I usually clean up as much as I can while I'm cooking so I have less dishes to clean up later. I learned it from my mom and I think that's a great way to keep the kitchen clean. Brian comes from a family that cooks dinner with 10 different pans and then puts them all in the sink and they sit there all morning. That is just completely disgusting to me.

I let the crock pot soak in the sink (since dinner had sort of baked onto the side of it and it needed some soaking). I was completely tired by then (it was midnight...I had gotten up at 6am...didn't take a nap all throughout the day...I can't do it) and I asked him to clean the crock pot and put it away...that's all I asked.

I get up this morning...not only is the crock pot still in the sink, but it was not put away. There was stew all over the counters and the sink. At least it appears that he attempted to clean the crock pot as it was not filled with soapy water, but still...when you clean something, do you put it back into the dirty sink? Do you clean up the stuff that had splashed all over the counter? UGH...

THEN, I've been having problems with milk supply and feeding :( I pump twice as often (to increase my milk supply) and it just seems like I'm getting less milk each and every time that I pump. It's discouraging...so I've been feeding Gregory formula in bottles so he doesn't starve and then I've been storing my milk so he has some. At the same time, I'll breastfeed him in the mornings and whatnot (so far, I've not found that he's confused by being bottlefed and breastfed...he hasn't had any trouble that I've seen differentiating, even though they do not advise bottle feeding and breastfeeding at the same time for obvious reasons). Anyway, I only have two 6oz bottles with the wide nipple (which is supposed to simulate the breast more than the standard nipples) and I get up in the morning and both of them are dirty...and I have to wash them. I guess Brian doesn't understand how to wash a bottle in the sink with soap and water since he never does it.

I guess while I was gone last night (between 9:30pm and 11:30pm) Brian changed Gregory's diaper which is all fine and dandy...but I went to bed and put the diaper changing stuff on the table (as we change him on the bed) and it never even got moved. I woke up at 4:30 in the morning to feed him and noticed that it had not been moved. He had to have woken up before then...and Brian never changed his diaper. Poor thing...no wonder it appears that he has diaper rash...

Grr...another thing...we went and bought food for his lunch (if he packs a lunch for work, then we save money because he's not buying food)...I told him that the food that we bought (specifically the snack food) was going to be for his lunches. It's like he completely tuned me out or ignored me or something because he conveniently doesn't wake up in time to make a damn lunch before he leaves work (the one day that he took a lunch to work, I made it for him...) and then while I was gone last night or sleeping or something, he raided the cupboards and ate a ton of the snack food, had the cookies out, and he ate the cup-o-noodles thingy that we bought specifically for him to take in his lunch. He told me the other day that he eats leftovers, yet they're still sitting in the refrigerator (uneaten)...

AHH...it's driving me up the wall! As you can see, I'm just completely and utterly stressed out. My mom said that my decrease in milk production might be due to stress, but seriously...how do I become unstressed if it seems like I'm the only one taking care of the baby!

Apparently the wide nipple/loose storage bag thing makes feeding easier... I think playtex makes them? Unless they've changed it in the 10 years I last saw a baby botle.
» ikimashokie on 2007-02-03 01:27:20

wow, I'd just slap him and say 'pay attention!' and then tell him whatever you need to say. I wish I coule help; even though I'm not partial to kids, its usually the ones who have to ability to talk back and run around and ... grr. those annoy me.
we never trusted my step dad to do dishes after dinner. they never got clean {even if he washed them} so it was up to me and my sister to do all the dishes.
» LostSoul13 on 2007-02-03 02:14:54

I'll kick Brian's ass for you. hehehe It is weird how much he has changed since I first met him. I really hope that everything works out for you guys. You deserve to be happy. Don't stress out too much...that isn't good for you or Gregory. I wish I could help you relax a little bit more...the only thing I can do for you is listen and help you out as much as I can. I hope that is enough!
» pyrogrrl12 on 2007-02-04 12:58:05

You should tell him that he's the reason you have the baby in the first place, and that he needs to help raise him.....

It sucks that you have to do everything by yourself. :(
» randomjunk on 2007-02-04 01:55:58

I totally understand how you feel.. That's what I get from the 3 men in my house! They totally leave everything for me and my mom to do and with me working and my mom refusing to let me quit, the house.. is in quite a mess..(thankfully my mom cleaned it during the weekend) *hugs* I wish I can help you with your problem.. By the way, it'll be cool to get the Twilight/New Moon shirts before anyone else in the world does.. I'm tempted to pull some strings to get them. ;) Have a nice week!
» Nuttz on 2007-02-04 10:54:46

I didn't know you could drink when you were breast-feeding. ::stores away knowledge:: Good luck with everything. My mom used to take us to the grocery store and to the museum and all these random places, just because she wanted to get out and walk and Denver is tooooo cold! Have you ever been up to the Flat Irons rock formation? I've never been up there, it would be fun to go. I've been to the mall twice, but since I live in south Denver Park Meadows is closer. Aw... now I guess I have to say "lived". :( Can't wait til I get to move back to Denver! Many good wishes to you, lazypuppy, keep on fighting the good fight.
» Zanzibar on 2007-02-05 09:21:27

I know I didn't think you could do that either Zanzibar...

If you haven't really confronted Brian yet I would. Instead of cleaning the dishes when you got home I would have said, "Well here's your reminder, please go do them." Wait...I HAVE done that. I used to do what you did, but then my boyfriend figured out something. He can say he will, but if he doesn't I will do it and only be upset for like a day...he could handle that. So then I started doing the above and low and behold he started to remember more often during the time I was gone, would do it right away when asked or would do it when reminded.
» Katrina on 2007-02-07 09:54:50

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