I've been thinking about... dating lately. There was this picture floating around on Facebook that said, "Don't try to find the right girl, focus on trying to be the right man". That got my wheels turning about the "Law of Attraction" and personal growth and all of that noise and I started to reverse engineer a new me from the people I tend to admire or think "he would be fun to date". Vin Diesel would be a fun guy to date. See, he's a big nerd, into all of that D&D stuff, but he's super ripped, totally hot and ridiculously nice! I mean... it's like wherever you see Vin Diesel show up he's saying something humble or gracious and you think "Wow... that's the kind of guy I want to get to know". Now, I realize that I'm not... movie star girlfriend kind of hot, right? And it's not exactly practical for me to think, "Oh, I'll be a movie star!" but it does make me think about holding myself up to a little bit of a higher standard (not that I don't, it's just unfocused). I mean... why can't I try to be a little bit more humble, to think about what I say and think about how it helps others, how it lifts others up, how it makes other people excited about what we're doing together? That wouldn't be bad for me, would it? Also... quite frankly, if I started lifting a few weights and running on the track a bit more, it wouldn't kill anyone, either. (Although, on the second or third mile, I sure think it would). I guess that's what admiring people is all about, making yourself a little bit... better.

I looooooooooooove Vin Diesel.
» Zanzibar on 2013-05-17 07:22:58

I felt like when I was purposely abstaining from dating to focus on improving myself, more guys were interested in me... I'm not sure if it was related or not though.
» randomjunk on 2013-05-17 10:39:52

This is a really interesting idea, because I've noticed it in myself as well. It took a bit to realize I was doing it, but once I became conscious of it I struggled because it felt like I wasn't "being myself." Have you ever felt similarly?
» The-Muffin-Man on 2013-05-19 07:41:41

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