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Do you have a rock?
Saturday. 11.8.08 10:39 pm
I used to always want to find some kind of person to have a great relationship with. My ideal relationship was mainly focused on romance.
I've come to realize that relationships aren't just about romance. They're about friendship, equality, respect, trust, expectations. There are different types of relationships. I no longer look for a romance or "partner."

I guess, in the simplest terms, I now search for a "partner in crime." Not even search, actually. I have a few friends who I can depend on. But, now I look for the traits of someone who can fit that of a "rock." Someone solid, someone who cares about me, who I care for back. Someone dependable, a friend, someone willing.

In my opinion, there is a big difference between a "best friend" and a "rock." Best friends tell each other everything, usually agree with one another, and most of the time are very similar. A rock could have some of these traits, but they aren't mandatory in any way. A person could be a complete opposite, I wouldn't have to tell them EVERYTHING, and instead of just agreeing to make each other feel better, you tell it how it is. NOT in a rude way, which some of my friends have done.

(Different subject very quick: it really aggravates me when I ask my friends to tell me the truth about something, but instead of telling me in a nice way, they are COMPLETELY BLUNT about something and don't care if they're mean. There is always a way to make something horrid sound nice, even if it's adding the phrase, "I mean, I'm sorry to be mean, but it's true." IN A NICE WAY.)

ANYWAYS. Back to the rock. If I have a rock, I would want to be a rock, back. The ultimate relationship on levels that two "best friends" would not understand. Ever.

I have a rock of some sort.. It's a little rocky but she'll be there... It is annoying when she purposely annoys me.
» Nuttz on 2008-11-09 11:06:55

Well, I'm quite glad that you've discovered what kind of relationship/friendship you'd like. You're new found definition of "partner in crime" is what I believe to be a quite healthy one, in fact.

However, I'm not so sure that you can handle it...

Truth is BLUNT. It is without excuses. It is harsh. It is unforgiving.

If you ever want to trully accept truth from your friends, you must learn to be able to take criticism, even if it's harsh. If you ever want to grow as an individual, in any case.

That's why I wouldn't apologize for my criticism and am still quite tempted at not apologizing. However, if you are TRUE to your word, which I'm unsure you can are if you can't handle receiving it, and you did do it on accident, then I'm sorry for being so harsh.
» elessar257 on 2008-11-09 09:56:45

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