OK guys are soooo confusing.
Last night, I was in a club with friends and friends' friends. I kind of grew out of this scene after some bad experiences but hey, where the party's at...
Anyway, long story short: I was dancing the whole night with this guy; everything seemed cool between us; he bought me drinks, he wasn't perverted touchy-feely like most of the clubrats, I wasn't even trying to monopolize him or anything, like I would leave him and see if he actually wanted to dance with me and yea he initiated stuff. We actually had decent conversations in between the dancing and at one point, we did kiss.
So here's the confusing part: When the other people were telling him to leave, he left with them too. No conversation enders, no exchange of numbers, just a quick hug with a "nice meeting you". Which left me all like, what the fuck?
I mean, this is typical (expected) club behaviour but what I don't get is why the build-up? Why buy me drinks? Why stay with me? I feel cheated out of the whole thing since I (as my friend put it) "invested" in staying with him the whole night. Basically, I felt like my efforts were wasted when I could've looked for other people who'd be more appreciative in the end. I mean, I thought he was being appreciative but that 180 turn in the end caught me off guard. I'm not looking for a one-night-stand like some loose girl. I just don't get it. Forget cellphone numbers; a simple "we should hang out again" would've justified his actions and satisfied me.
It's not like I "like" this person. I just met him for crying out loud. It's more of a pride thing. I get it if you're just not into me but why lead me on? So what's the deal with that? Guys?

Categories: women are from venus [t], men are from fricken\' andromeda [t]

Man I don't even know
Even the typical "one night stand" thing doesn't apply unless he was just jonesin' for some sweet kissing action.
» middaymoon on 2010-10-17 11:15:39

Mayyyyyybe he was caught by surprise and just forgot to say he wanted to see you again? Perhaps he was just slow to respond, and then it was too late.
» randomjunk on 2010-10-17 11:27:19

I dunno, I've been in the guy's place with this type of stuff. Some people just like having fun, no strings, no expectations. I used to ONLY make short-term investments with my time. It's only recently that I've started appreciating long-term attention and love.
» Unicornasaurus on 2010-10-17 11:54:53

Boys are stupid. That's about it lol
» Midnight on 2010-10-18 06:52:43

Hrmpf... Sounds like he just dropped the ball. It's that kind of thing that guys kick themselves over later "Why didn't I just ASK for her freaking number!"
» jinyu on 2010-10-18 10:29:47

That happened to me once. I was dancing with this guy, having a good time, whatever, it was fun, kind of a build-up. His friends were telling him that they had to go and he kept blowing them off to dance more, several times. Then he got a phone call, I thought it was from his friends, but maybe not, and then he was OUTTA THERE. No real "goodbye" even. I wondered if maybe he had a girlfriend or something, and that was her on the phone.

I think sometimes people are just like, "I'm going to go to the bar, mack on some chicks..." but they're not actually looking for anything.

I know I've gone to bars before being like, "I'm frustrated with all the guys I know, I'm going to spend the evening flirting with a hot guy, just as a breath of fresh air." But I don't actually want anything more than that, I just think it's fun.
» Zanzibar on 2010-10-19 03:59:18

OH GOSH
I'm so glad that you're back.

I don't go out to clubs at all...mostly since I'm not of age, but also because I don't think it's really my scene. Either way, I feel like anybody you meet in that sort of environment is just looking for short-term fun, kinda like what Zanzi said. Granted, it's weird to only put on the player pants for one night....but what do I know about that.

I hope you staaaaay nowwwww
» The-Muffin-Man on 2010-10-21 03:31:37

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