To all you smart cookies here at nutang, give me your opinion.

Before I go into this I must also inform you that I don't believe in coincidences. Especially incredibly improbable coincidences.

So, on this scholastic journey called "college" I've gone through a bit. I started going to this one school, UNT, that's less than an hour away from home in order to stay close to my mom (who has cancer), my girlfriend (we had been together for almost three years back then), and for my church (they're like my family). Since then, my mom still has cancer and it might be getting worse, my girlfriend dumped me, and I became a youth leader at the church. So this last year I decided to come back home and go to a community college, for JUST one year. Maybe in some way, re-direct myself.
Now, here I am, nearly mid-year and I can't figure out what to do the following year. You see, this is technically my third year in college. Although, because of everything that's been going on in my life, my grades made me out to be a sophmore still. The confusion comes in here: do I stay? go back to UNT? or otherwise?
I'd love to stay and make sure my mom's allright, but according to the doctors, this isn't something that will ever get better. Also, it's just me and my mom, so if I left she'd be pretty much alone. We have a couple cousins and my brother (who overworks himself at KFC to take care of HIS family), but they all can't just take care of my mom and drop everything in their lives. I'd also love to stay for my youth, who are all like my little brothers and sisters, and make sure that they get well grounded in their spiritual walk. Or at least have another youth leader that would do that. So far, it's just me that's really taking care of them, no one else.
Now, if I go back to UNT, I'm not going to lie, I wouldn't be too happy. I really didn't exactly like this school since day one. I settled for it. However, the plus side would be that I already know how it's run and I'd have no problem getting around.
But this is where things get interesting... For this past year now I've been getting coincidences with this specific school. It started off with some random searching for a new wallpaper on my computer. Next thing you know I find this BEAUTIFUL university campus. So, I decided to research it a bit. After a bit of looking around I realize that this school concentrates on the EXACT things I love. It has EXACTLY what I've been looking for. And I fell in love with it. If anyone knows me, this is a shocker. I've never really cared for schools. School pride is and has always been a ridiculous concept to me. So for me to fall in love with this school was strange to me. However, it's in North Carolina and it's private. So, I kinda just put in the back of my head and let it go. But since then I've bumped into it in the most RANDOM of places. Like random professors talking about this school. Seeing a parking sticker of the school on a vehicle that I happened to stop behind at a red light. I mean, this isn't a big school. It's not known through out everywhere, and much less here in Texas, since everyone is all about Texas schools. And these "coincidences" just keep happening over and over. To make things a little more strange, my dad may be transferring from Minnesota to North Carolina, in a town near by. I think these are just a few too many coincidences.

So what do I do? What does this mean? What would YOU do?

Religious
You are religious. God works in mysterious ways. He knows your heart and your true intentions. Pray on it and if you get a burning deep within your chest you will know it is the right thing to do. :)
» kkama67 on 2006-11-06 09:53:37

I think you should apply for the school and see if you can get into it.

If you have to go home to be with your mom, they will understand and you can most likely leave to take care of her...maybe they will even compromise with doing distance courses or something online while you're at home with your mom (you'd never believe what schools, good schools, will do to help you out).

I mean, what could it hurt for you to at least attempt to go there? I think it might be good for you! Community college is a good place to get your feet wet, but I was in the same situation as you. It felt like I was spinning my wheels at the community college...didn't know what I wanted to do...wasn't going anywhere. A university might be exactly what you're looking for.
» lazypuppy on 2006-11-06 09:57:17

I agree praying is a definite helper. Also, attempt a semester at a university and see how it goes. UNT is within an hour of your house, you could theoretically drive home every night or only on the weekends.
» ryan444123 on 2006-11-06 11:17:11

Awesome!
Thank you elessar257! You just gave me God's goose bumps! The universe speaks in mysterious ways! Ask not what rather do go with the flow! Speaking of coincidences, coincident or not:

http://www.nutang.com/forums.php?thread=59&p=3


» JMC on 2006-11-06 11:36:02

honestly
be with your mom...
from the voice of experience.
if something happens to her youre going to think about it for a long time...and wonder why you werent there more and miss the time you couldve been there. school wil still be there. texas will still be there. its not the be all end all, but family is ever changing.
» invisibleinkling on 2006-11-06 11:57:08

I agree with invisibleinkling. That private university is there to stay. You could always go tograd school there in the future. I think you've got alot of ties in the DFW area to pack up and move 10 hours away,unless you want to take the church and your mom and the memories with you.
» Dilated on 2006-11-08 10:04:09

Liking the new layout
» kkama67 on 2006-11-08 08:25:14

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