mom: "You are putting tyler before your family and everything else. You are putting finances before him. You are going to end up with nothing. He will dissapoint you. Tyler isnt asking you to do this you are just doing it on your own. Im not blaming him Ruby. I just think you have your priorities mixed up and your going to end up alone and I dont want to be there for it."


what am I suppose to say to that?

I mean okay tyler isnt working right now because he is taking wayyyy crazy hours in college. I still have my graduation money saved and i have been using it on gas and other things. Sure we have gone out to dinner a few times and I have paid. But what does that matter?

My mom has been married 4 times. Her main reason for them all ending is one thing....money. She makes sure hers and herself is taken care of first and she sees men as a way of doing that.

So in my relationship yes I have a fear of dating a guy for money. I dont want to be that person. So I guess in a way with Tyler I have made sure there is no motivation of that at all. As for having my priorities mixed up. He is part of my family. Maybe someday we will start a family. He is important to me and i love spending time with him. He makes me happy and not miserable like she does. With her I cant do anything right. Nothing is ever good enough. So Im not sorry that Im spending all my free time with him. And if you have a problem with my relationship keep it to yourself. This is between Tyler and I. If you where actually trying to look out for me that would be a different thing. But i dont appreciate you trying to hurt me and my relationship with him.

You sound just like me years ago. And that sounds just like something my mother would have said to me about my Tyler. Now we're married and happier than ever.

Never let anyone come between you and what you think is right. Even if you're wrong in the end it's something to take with you in life and learn from.
» Midnight on 2010-09-21 06:15:52

YEa your mom should just back the hell off some. ..geez.....
» CPKviperpheonix on 2010-09-25 03:16:15

No one wants someone else to date/marry them for their money. Your mother and you may have different outlooks on things (as do I and my mother) but sometimes you should listen but not take her words to heart because you will always be frustrated with the things she says and the more you show her that you don't like it, the more she will wish that there will be a day that she tells you "I told you so".
» Nuttz on 2010-09-26 01:29:43

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