I made a mistake. I wasn't even thinking so I kept talking like it was nothing.

I feel really, really, really, really, really bad now.

It's been almost a year since his grandfather died and it's still a very sore wound for him. So what did I do?

I was talking about the ailments that took my grandparents lives and just kept going.

Finally he stopped me and asked if I could just not talk about it anymore. That's when it clicked how close it was to his grandfather's passing.

How am I supposed to make things better? I apologized. I left the room to take a shower. When I came back out he was in bed.

I feel horrible. Hell, I'm the one crying.

He called off from work tomorrow. I want to think it's because he's coming down with a cold and doesn't want to go to work sick, but before my runaway mouth upset him, he was still fine going in to work tomorrow. He even said no when I suggested he call off. So I know it's because I've ripped open the wound and he doesn't want to go in feeling the way he is. Regardless if he were sick or not.

I don't know what to do to make things not so awkward. I really do feel horrible.

As long as he knows you sincerely regret what you said, hopefully this is the worst it can get... :/
» randomjunk on 2011-03-14 02:45:16

I would have done the same thing.

It's incredibly rude to put people in such an awkward position when they have no way of escaping. The fact that some people are okay with pushing something on you, then getting offended when you aren't interested or say no thank you is mind boggling to me.


And as for you're feeling guilty - that really is unfortunate. You of course didn't mean to upset him, but once it's out there, you just feel so helpless.

I'm sure he appreciated your sincere apology.


» Amelie on 2011-03-14 10:06:58

Don't do anything! I'm sure he knows you didn't mean harm. No way he's holding it against you. Just try not to do it again, obviously. In the meantime, just be supportive if he gets moody or whatever.
» middaymoon on 2011-03-15 01:48:42

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