Really?!
I keep wanting to write about this, but I always end up writing about something else. Even now I have something else I want to speak about, but I want to say it before I forget...again.
My realtor is a wonderful woman. She's nice, funny, sweet, thoughtful and you can tell she is earnestly trying to be what a Christian is supposed to be. One day we are driving to another house to look at and some how the topic of having children came up. I can't remember how it progressed to it, but I think it's because I keep saying that it's good to buy a 3 bedroom for the resell value. All Matt and I need is a master since we don't really have guests. It's not like my mom sleeps over when she visits. Any ways she said something very shocking to me. She asked me who would take care of my husband and I when we got older if we didn't have kids. Really?! That's your reason why you have kids is so you have a 50% chance they won't hate your guts and might love you enough to not dump you in some cheap ass old folks home? That's why most people spend over 1 million dollars on raising a kid? I thought that's what a living will and making sure you save for retirement and such things are for. Then again maybe that's why a lot of people have more then one kid. You know, the whole "don't put all of your eggs in one basket" sort of deal.
Take my sister for example. My mom raised her with love. She cared for her, gave her more things and money she ever gave me and yet my sister's a huge bitch that really doesn't give a crap about my mom. If I wasn't around that means my mom would have a pretty slim chance of living comfortably when she's in her 80's. For appearance's sake she might put her in a nice old person's home, but I doubt she'd do more then that. My sister sometimes means well, sometimes, but more often then not she can't see past her own nose.
I also love how people will tell me, "Oh you are young, you or your husband might change your mind." No, I'm not young and there's no way my mind will be changed. There's no way my husband's mind would be changed. I also find it funny how the people who say it almost always have kids. While they may think giving birth (Something I find rather repulsive.) and raising a child is something wonderful and everyone should go through with it. Why? Really, what's so wonderful about children? I don't see anything that I could get from a child that I can't get from my husband and I didn't have to pay out of my ass to raise him since that's been taken care of. Ok I've heard some reasons, but they are all selfish and self serving. So what's wrong with going to the flip side of that and being selfish and self serving by NOT having kids?
Hmm.. The percentage of old folks living by themselves are rising so even if you have kids, it's the same as not having kids so if you guys doesn't want to have kids then dont and don't care about what others say. Furthermore, you'll have each other.
» Nuttz on 2007-07-06 01:27:30
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