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Dying for pleasure

Last updated: Tuesday, March 02, 2010 Print

Kristian Digby, well-known BBC presenter has been found dead in his London flat. It is suspected that he died accidentally during a sex game, presumably autoerotic asphyxiation.

This practice is also called masturbatory self-strangulation. What is it and why is it so dangerous?

Asphyxiation means that the oxygen supply to the brain is cut off as a result of strangulation.

What is AEA?
Autoerotic asphyxiation (AEA) is a sexual practice in which people strangulate themselves during masturbation. Decreased blood flow to the brain results in the release of endorphines. People become euphoric and experience a heightened sexual experience and more intense orgasms. For many, AEA gradually becomes the only way in which they can reach orgasm.

In most cases, people strangulate themselves by using a ligature such as a rope with which they have made a noose or slip-knot around the neck. Most people have built-in safety or rescue methods. In nearly all fatal cases, people did indeed have safety mechanisms, but these had failed.

AEA is an extremely dangerous practice and results in several deaths each year. It shouldn't be confused with suicide. People who practise AEA die unintentionally, usually because they lose consciousness during partial asphyxia, and therefore lose control over the means of strangulation. It is particularly dangerous if people combine self-strangulation with self-bondage. Those who practice AEA are typically impulsive thrill-seekers who have a death fantasy, as opposed to a death wish. They�re basically playing Russian Roulette.

It is more common than is generally thought, especially among adolescent or young adult males. It has claimed the lives of many famous people, including the lead singer of INXS Michael Hutchence and the British Conservative MP Stephen Milligan, and now presumably also that of actor David Carradine.

Warning signs of AEA behaviour
It is difficult to identify people who practice AEA. They are often happy, average, and well-adjusted who appear to have good relationships with family and friends.

If you are concerned that someone you know may be involved in AEA activities, look out for these signs:

Unexplained marks on the neck
Bloodshot eyes
Ropes, knotted-up T-shirts or plastic bags
Disorientation

- (Ilse Pauw, Health24, updated March 2010)

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Hi, I am interested in having my GF use her breasts to get me off (I forget the term). Do you have any experience trying this? I am not sure about the best way of asking or the best way executing it. Thank you,

There is no medically relevant term for a tit job, to the best of my knowledge. If there is, I want to know it. Here are some good alternatives:

- Breast wanking

- Twin-peaking

- Jello wobbling

- Titalator

I've done it before, but it's not my favorite thing to do (nor has it been that of any of the guys I've dated) so it's a rarity. What I would do would be to get erect first, throw some massage oil down, and get to thrusting. Spit works good, as does pre-come if you have a lot.

For those of you who don't know, a tit job, boob job, breast job... involves sticking your penis in between a girls breasts. Then, typically, she holds her breasts together while you thrust in and out of them. Sometimes until ejaculating right on her chest/chin/face. This is pretty popular with breast-men... guys that have breast fetishes.

As far as asking her, just do it like you'd ask her anything else. Whenever you're laying about together next just lean over and ask her what she thinks about boob jobs and if she'd let you try one with her. I think that's totally acceptable.

http://www.formspring.me/suggestive

Where she'll answer questions like

"why am I significantly hornier when I'm on my period?"

I get really horny on my period, why?

Is it common to eat more on your period?

Does your period stop during masturbation?