I've been with him for 4 years now. His parents want to meet my parents. From many's point of view, it would be absolutely legit. However, why do I feel so pressured about it. It's as if I don't want them to meet yet. It's not like I have anything to hide or feel ashamed about anything. I don't know what this feeling means.
Last night, he casually talked to me about moving into his place. (He still lives at home, by the way.) I immediately objected the idea. I personally wouldn't ever want to move into my boyfriend's place if he still lives at home. It would make things so awkward, even if his parents were the ones who wanted to me to move in! He didn't seem to understand the point that I was trying to make, that not many in today's society would live with their other half's parents or in-laws even. I really would like my personal space and don't want to have to change my living style to suit others' way to living. He sounded annoyed and disappointed at what I was saying. Maybe he's just not mature enough to understand yet. After all, we are only 21 and 22.
Was I being unreasonable? Will he understand one day? Will this work out?
yeahhhh, I think you're being totally reasonable not wanting to move into his place. Do you still live with your parents or are you on your own? I'd have to think really hard about moving in with my boyfriend even if he lived on his own... I'd rather not do it unless we were married. But I definitely wouldn't live with him if he still lives with his paaarrrrents.
But hopefully he realizes that you don't want to join his *living situation*, not that you don't like *him* or aren't serious or whatever.
» Zanzibar on 2011-12-08 02:12:39
im glad somebody agrees with me! lol. I do love him. I still live at home but it's because I couldn't be able to afford to live on my own and have time to cook and stuff. i only started working this year and obviously not financially stable yet. But in a few years time, I'd be happy to move out and live on my own, and maybe then he could join me or something.
» ruiyan on 2011-12-08 11:19:39
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