One day, a wise professor asked his students, “When people are angry, why do they yell at each other as they talk to each other?”

All the students thought of the question for quite a while; one of them said, “Because we lose our ‘calmness’” “But why is it that the person is right next to you, and you still have to yell at them? Why can’t you talk softly?” asked the professor. Then almost all the students answered his question, but those were not the answers the professor wanted.

Finally, the professor explained, “When people are mad at each other, their hearts are distanced; to cover that up for the other person to hear us, we yell at them; but yelling makes us even angrier, so we yell louder…”

[This is the best part!-me] He goes on and says “What happens when two people are in love? It would be opposite—they won’t yell, instead, they talk very softly to each other. Why? Because their hearts are close to each other, almost not having any distance; so people who are in love with each other often talk like it’s a secret, but then, because of that, they fall even more deeply in love with each other; finally, they don’t even need words, but looking into each others eyes, and that is when their hearts have no distance between…

The professor concluded, “When we argue with someone, don’t allow the distance between the hearts to increase, and never say things that pulls the hearts even farther apart; wait for a few days, and THEN talk, when the hearts are closer.”

Compliments of Tom S's site who stole it from Tom Zhang's site.

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They say that a girl looks for a guy with the same qualities as their father has... today on the way back to SRU I got to observe my parents tease and goof around with each other (on the topic of whether or not my mother is "allowed" to get a tatoo "u know u can do anything u want bc I will always give in") My mom made a point to say, "see meghan? this is what u get to look foward to when you're settled down with whoever." So to start off I thought about my relationship I have with my dad. Mentally I made a list about what my pop has always done, stood for: endlessly forgiving, sympathetic, children come first, goofy (seriously, he arm wrestled sport goofy at Disney), he always hugs, even now wants to hold my hand, plays with my hair, would read to me outloud before bed (we def had tons of reading time, "camping out", storytelling) taking care of me when I was sick, doing the laundry, football games, is an awesome teacher, extremely patient... and most if not all of those qualitites are definitely the main things I treasure in anyone that comes into my life. So I guess I found someone with all of those qualtities but I did so subconsciously because until today I hadn't realized how similar the two of them are...

In seeing my parents goof around today, I saw that spark... my mom was talking about her blotchy legs or something and my dad turned to her and said, "well I think you're very attractive, I always have." oh man after 35 years...

and oh man my friends never fail to surprise me!

...and there's only one thing I still can't believe... and that is that someone could find me beautiful... I guess that is what they mean when they say, "u gotta believe it urself before u will believe it from other ppl." I really really hate it when old insecurities creep up... "habits like that are there for a lifetime". Other than that I am awesome right now and I could not ask for more.

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Just gave blood... and I feel great! (except for this huge pain in my arm!) It took them a good 20 min to get the blood from me tho and everyone was looking at me like there was something wrong so that got me a bit worried, but I just have tiny veins. Spent most of the day in the MPR with the blood drive, mixed in there was a pointless presentation for ex scien and a hilarious college writing class. "Say I was a prostitute in the west... and in reality I am not (how come I always feel like I need to say that?)"-cindy. I have to pack tonight cuz I go hommme tomorrow woohoo! I also have to mildly study for a National government class, hmph.

hey what does that green sticker on ur hand mean? does that mean ur worth $3?" "yes, it means I'm worth $3...

I'd like to think that I am perfect but I know that I am far from it... I'd like to think that I could tell you what I would and would not do, but I never know and that scares me. I'd like to think that nothing could stand in between me and my goals, but shit happens and I know that I am bound to screw up sooner or later. I'd like to think that I would never tell a lie to anyone I love but I already have. I'd like to think that I have self control and my morals straight but I am still figuring out both. I'd like to think that I will never make you sad, but I don't even know what I am and am not capable of.

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10 min before class starts... and shoot I don't know what to write!.. except I dislike mirrors... well not mirrors per se just what I see in them. I like this whole getting up an hour earlier, eating breakfast n relaxing...
12pm: 10 min before I have to leave again for a meeting, are we seeing a trend here? Welp! Our intro to exercise science class let us out 45 minutes early so I came back, got take out for lunch and am sitting here. I just realized that I can't volunteer for the hours that I wanted to on Thursday bc our class was changed to a diff timmmme. gah! 2 1/2 more days of no milk... but since I won't be here for dinner Friday I will have to wait till Monday. hmmm. I hate having to waste time waiting for stuff... like right now... they turned off the air conditioners today so I guess they assume that we won't need them anymore. Writing workshop went well this morning, read 2 very different papers. Tonight I get to read about prostitution in the west (well besides the fact that I am a perverted freak! there is a point to this reading)- my prof. I love that class. I will be sad when the semester is over just because of THAT class. Hopefully I can get Cindy for College Writing II as well. (or do I even need the class?) Gotta arrange a meeting with Dr. Ryan to talk about declaring a psychology minor. As I see it this semester there should be no reason why I can't get As in everyone of my classes. So that is my goal... 5 more minutes till I have to leave... I always get excited when I hear the room phone ring but 9/10 it is for my roomie.
1:30pm- I swear those meetings are the most diorganized things ever! Too much stuff going on, I have to remember when I am home to go to the bank and take money out for dues, outdoor adventure trip fees and other such nonsense. Now that I think about it, I hope I wasn't still supposed to stay after and talk to Dan about the Steeler's game... oh well he's knows I'm interested. I hear the job sucks but at least it'll get me in a diff atmosphere for a day. Got lab in 4 hours, dunno what I'm gonna do in b/w then/ Thursday is crazy and I can't go to 3 things I need to... there is a girls lax meeting at the same time as my re schedualed class, blood donation AND pitt steeler meeting! WHAT the hell am I supposed to do? I'll have to find out about the laX team some other way and try to call the blood donation person.. dunno HOW I am gonna do that! *breath* Tomorrow I have to go to nat govt, intro to dance, blood drive from 11-1, run to FYRST seminar for a lecture, if I don't have my blood taken I will go to the sweathouse class, run to chem class and SOMETIME work with Diana on our project! I'm so screwed. Anyway, ok, gonna work...

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I dunno.. today is a "be by urself" - "find yourself zoning out" kinda day. I have a paper to write but with 3 ppl in this room I don't think I can concentrate enough to get it done. I am peacefully tired. Slept in till 10 because I didn't get to sleep till 2am last night. People act surprised when someone who has been drinking has to go to the hospital, or when a party gets busted. Stupid. Anyway, I like my space, my stuff to be where it last was, my privacy... and don't get me wrong our extra for the weekend is the coolest person I'm just not in the "slumber party" mood I guess. Went to breakfast solo today for the first time and I actually didn't mind it as much as I thought I would've. There weren't enough people there to make me feel akward. I brought my waffel back in a container to the dorm tho. For some reason today I cna't finish it. hmph. It is so nice outside today, I might go venture for a walk er something. My flowers are starting to wilt so I think I will save the petals in a bowl. Laundry day!

The most destructive habit..............................Worry
The greatest Joy.......................................Giving
The greatest loss........................Loss of self-respect

The most satisfying work.......................Helping others
The ugliest personality trait.....................Selfishness
The most endangered species.................Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource.......................Our youth
The greatest "shot in the arm"..................Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome.........................Fear

The most effective sleeping pill................Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease....................Excuses
The most powerful force in life..........................Love

The most dangerous pariah..........................A gossiper
The world's most incredible computer................The brain
The worst thing to be without.... ...................... Hope

The deadliest weapon...............................The tongue
The two most power-filled words......................."I Can"
The greatest asset......................................Faith

The most worthless emotion..........................Self-pity
The most beautiful attire..............................SMILE!
The most prized possession......................... Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication.............Prayer
The most contagious spirit.........................Enthusiasm

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FROZE at the football game for 3 hours but it was sooo much fun! Good times laughing it up with Stef, Bethany, Kara and Katelyn. Oh man when I get that cold I kinda get high... high on life! wooh! The couple infront of us were definitely "scoring" throughout the game. We won 49-14 I think. Fireworks at halftime are the coolest too. When we got back we had 30 min to warm up, drink hot choc and thennn someone pulled the firealarm! So we had to go back out in the cold for 10 minutes. Right now I am eating left over sushi instead of drinking myself to a hangover or trying to pretend I am something to look at with some sexy clothes and make up that I neither own nor wear. Amanda, Bethany, Ashlei, Beth all left to meet a gang of ppl at "the blue house" for a party, asked if I wanted to go but tonight.. I'm not in the "flash urself and pretend ur hot shit" mood. Maybe some night I will be tho. The pops called earlier today bc he "missed my voice" and was lonely. I miss him too, so I called him back and we chatted for 10 minutes then I had to go. So what to do for the next 3 hours?

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